Monday, November 21, 2005

Anyone got the ice bucket?

This is something of a mixed bag, as it’s been as mixed bag kind of day. And I’m going to start with a message for those who leave comments on my blog, or rather for those who I don’t “know” who leave comments. Any regular readers should ignore what comes next, because it’ll probably seem like somethong from Invasion of The Body Snatchers!

1. This blog is clearly in the public domain, but regardless of that it’s mine to do with as I will, and to say on it what I want. I enjoy reading comments, and the truth is that it’s the comments that have prompted me to continue with something that was really just an experiment to begin with. But if you’re visiting for the first time, please at least have the courtesy to catch up on some of the background if you’re responding to what’s clearly a personal issue. Failing that, then as an alternative make reference to the fact that you’re commenting from a position that isn’t informed. Just don’t assume that I’m an idiot, because I’m not.

2. In addition, I should point out completely unambiguously that I have just as little time for misandry as I do for misogyny and, furthermore, I don’t appreciate being labelled by people with preconceived notions of who I am but who know nothing about me. Anyone who tries to do so on the basis that all men are somehow emotionally retarded is going to end up getting a fucking mouthful as a response. Don’t say you haven’t been warned.

Okay. I’ll apologise for posting what was a very rare rant for me, but you can blame my mood almost entirely on GG, who is driving me to complete distraction at the moment… more on that in my next post, when I’ve managed to calm myself down a bit. But, before I go and put my head in an ice bucket, I will mention something rather amusing that happened earlier today.

This afternoon, I got a call from a friend and work associate who I’ll call “M”. M and I know each other pretty well, and aside from a bit of small talk we had one or two things to discuss regarding a meeting that had to be scheduled early in December. That issue out of the way, M said to me that he wanted to talk about something else. “It’s about your blog, ‘What Doesn’t Kill You…’”, he said. Well, it would be hard to describe the mixture of horror and embarrassment that I felt for a second or two… in fact, just for a moment, I understood the expression “the blood froze in my veins”! But – once I got used to the idea - I must admit I started to find the whole notion pretty funny.

M was impeccable about it, letting me know that he’d stumbled across the site by accident (but knew enough about me and what was going on in my life to realise who the author was), and also promising not to read it again if I felt in the slightest bit awkward about it. He was kind enough to say that he thought it was well written, albeit (ahem) slightly... sexual in tone in some instances. But, to be honest, I’m absolutely fine (somewhat surprisingly), and actually feel nothing but respect for the way that the whole thing was dealt with. Now, I imagine M is going to be reading this, and I haven’t really offered an explanation for my escapades under the guise of HNT… then again, maybe we’ll get a chance to talk about it at a meeting we’re both attending later this week!!

Oh. My. God.

29 comments:

unforgiving b*tch said...

I've been told that if found, my blog would be easily recognizable from my writing style...go figure.

At least M and yourself handled it properly...

Surviving Online Dating said...

A good rant is good for the soul. I love it, rant on baby, rant on!!

Parveneh said...

Your post made me chuckle. I've always admired how honest you are in your posts. I personally have issues being that honest when the possibility of that "honesty" may be exposed to those I know.

It's not that I'm not a straight forward person, I just have a darker, more depressing, side that no one usually sees. I wrote just one post that reflected that and my boyfriend freaked out. Guess it's my fault that I gave him the blog address...

I am very tempted to say, "Screw them!" and uncensor my blog.

NML said...

I couldn't blog unless I could be honest so it's good to see you being uncensored. I love a good rant and understand your perspective. I very rarely experience this issue but I would feel exactly the same if it did happen to me. Very funny re the colleague. The same thing happened to me a few months ago and I nearly keeled over with embarrassment!

Blondie said...

I'm not too worried about my blog being found but I would get freaked out if someone just said that to me out of the blue.

I rant about half the time in my blog so you're not going to hear me tell you off about it.

*hugs*

K.D. Morgan said...

I'm glad I read the "rant" part. I like that side of you.

j said...

rant away. it's really just common sense/common courtesy that you are asking for.

i've been found twice. i hated it. and it was on my boring everyday blog.

Networkchic said...

We all deserve a good rant...yours is so eloquent.

I think the blood in my veins would freeze too if I were found out by my collegues. Recently a friend of mine found my blog and we had a good chuckle about the HNT pics but other than that she said she really envied my writing. So, some good things can come out of being discovered. :-)

Annalis said...

WDKY - Nice rant.

Hey, what's a little bare ass between colleagues? Ooooh so embarassing. :)

Caterpillar said...

Well said with regard to the random commenters who comment without knowing much of anything!

And I think someone would have to restart my heart for me if my blog just came up in conversation that way! But I'm glad that M is so cool about it. And your ass is just so hot that how could you not show it to all your adoring fans who were begging and begging and begging!!!!

WDKY said...

UB, indeed we did!

C, it must be tre because I feel a little better now!

Hi Parv, and thanks. Go on, go for it... anyway, dark is interesting.

NML, I see I'm forgiven then :-)

Ruthie, I've never eegarded you as a ranter!

Thanks, KD. I like your various sides too, as you know!

J, I agree. But there's nowt as strange as folks (as they say over here!)

NWC - eloquent? Excellent, many thanks as always. Yes, HNT is a bit of a worry!

Anna, glad you enjoyed it. And quite a lot, I reckon...

Cat - yes, absolutely, and thanks! And (ahem) I'm beginning to worry about exposing my bottom... still, it's done now ;-)

Blondie said...

You've never saw my traffic rants?? hahaha... There is definitely one coming this week with it being a holiday week.

xx

Zoozan said...

Hope that made you feel better

I shared my first blog with everyone in the house, and asked their permission before I posted it, because it was so personal I didn't want them to stumble on it unawares.

E-E said...

Holy Canoli Batman!

LMAO.... OH, sweetie, I cannot BELIEVE or IMAGINE what you must have been thinking.

Can you imagine if someone found MY blog??? What w/ all my talk of Bisexuality and no one knows that about me!?!
YIKES!
Well, NOW you know why I link to change my links... but when I do THAT, I lose my "fans"... ;)
Oh well. C'est la vie.
I bet you will think twice now about more expose'-type HNT posts!
Take care!

kimmyk said...

I let my family and friends know of my blog...but not my co-workers. Now if a co-worker found my blog...I'd be totally floored almost to the point of possibly looking for a new job.

I've often thought of deleting it....I'll probably re-visit these thoughts again.....

Sher said...

Which is why my link changed. For this very reason. The thought came to mind after seeing what keyword was used in numerous searches that inadvertently landed them on my blog.

What if my little one stumbles upon this one day, or anything else I've written on the web (Hey..just "google" yourself and you'll know what I mean)...

I started to panic a bit and decided that my name shouldn't be linked to this blog. Change the link!

Oh and maybe a few deleted posts as well...

How did he just "stumble" upon it?
Small world isn't it?

k said...

Nobody knows who I am. I'm totally anonymous. I also live in a little bubble where the air is always fresh, the sky is always blue, the grass is really green and birds sing. The sun shines here... and I'm totally anonymous. I would absolutely SHIT if someone came forward in my everyday life and said they read my BLOG. It's two years old now, ya know? In two years I've not been found. It's cause I'm totally anonymous don't ya know?!

Nice rant, why don't you say what you really mean though? That's what bugs me about you, always beating around the proverbial bush...

WDKY said...

Kel, I know. I've always been a bit backward at coming forward :-)

WDKY said...

Zooz, it did. And remember what I told you about "post" and blog"? Task.

EE - Yikes indeed :-)

Kimmy, don't you dare delete it!

Sher, I'm changing mine too - on Saturday, new details posted. It's a very small world indeed.

J's Girlfriend said...

Omg. The pain! Especially being someone at work as well. If I ever get found I'll start crying. And then I'd move my blog.

And sympathy with the GG situation... A broken heart is manageable, it's so much worse when you're not exactly sure what way to go.

NewYorkMoments said...

Wow! I would never want any of my friends or family to know about my blog. For me, it would taint the whole experience. In fact I've been sorry for some time now that there are a few people out there who know who I am.

And, if there is any man out there who could make me believe that not ALL men are emotionally retarded, it's you.

Sky said...

First and foremost,that was an excellent rant. Men aren't emotionally retarded? J/K hon...it's only the men I date :).

I would absolutely die if one of my co-workers found my blog...hmm it may be the fact that I have a picture of the jackrabbit on there, lol. At least M was tasteful in the way it was brought up.

Just Jane said...

My blog was exposed only this week to my acute embarrassment as I was discussing an invention my sister's boyfriend had created, and for reasons too crude to discuss in this new (for me) forum, I said it should be advertised in porn mags. A google search by a mate of the inventor proved my undoing,and I'm still trying to figure out if he will ever forgive me.

Blueprincesa said...

wow, that is such an awful coincidence. I've never been able to figure out how people come accross the blogs of people they know by accident. There are so many of them on the internet! AH! Google! Well anyone who finds you that way is surely asking for whatever it is they learn, whether it be how you look half naked or your views on ostrich farming.

k o w said...

Let them come and read, your really a seamstress in Santa Fe who watched way to much Faulty Towers growing up.

WDKY said...

j's g - I'm a bloke, and I only cry over EM:HE.

NYM - thank you! That's what I call a compoliment :-)

Sky, glad you enjoyed the rant. So did I!

Jane... eeek! Thanks for commenting, btw.

Blue, that's nice healthy attitiude. Easy if it,s not you half nekkid, of course ;-)

KOW, I asked you not to reveal my true identity. Thanks!

honkeie2 said...

I am a little worried about someone I know finding mine but I dont sweat it. And besides my opion is the only one that matters in my book :-D.

NML said...

What am I forgiving you for you loony? x

Claire said...

Oh.My.God!! Indeed!