Tuesday, November 01, 2005

Simplicity

Well, it’s been a long day today (still struggling with the internal body clock after BST reverted to GMT over the weekend) but I feel good. Actually, I really should be quite stressed, but it seems that I'm not. And I haven't even smoked a spliff, because I only smoke in company, and even then not very often. Maybe it's something in the water.

Anyway, I’ve just watched a particularly emotional episode of EM:HE (fucking programme – I hate it) followed by some footie (sorry NML) and I’m typing this in between adding to my business plan for a meeting with the bank manager on Monday afternoon. The good news? When he asks for a business plan I won’t have to just sit there with a vacant expression on my face. I'm pleased about that, because I want their money, or at least a promise of it if I need it!

Right. I posted the rather sad story about my car a couple of days ago, and it kind of amused me (and touched me) to see how outraged everyone was at the damage that had been caused. Thanks, by the way, I appreciate the thoughts and the sympathy. It occurred to me, though, that I was less angry than anyone, and I decided to just post something – a short synopsis – of my philosophy of life by way of an explanation.

It’s probably fair to say that my adult years haven’t been easy. Although I post in a very open and personal way on here, there’s much that I don’t write about and may never do so. In a lot of ways I’m a very private person, although the anonymity in the blogosphere preserves that privacy even when I’m talking from the heart. Does that sound strange? Maybe not…

These days, and despite that rather difficult past, I’ve succeeded in doing something that a lot of people find hard to achieve… I’ve got to a place mentally where I’m really happy with myself; I’ve (more or less) come to terms with everything that constitutes my past; and I’ve concluded that much of the peace with the world that I feel comes from living my life with the objective of... well, simplicity. It seems to work for me, and although I’m not quite sure how I’ve got here from the very different place in which I used to be, I do know that part of it is that I won’t allow myself to get upset for long (if at all) over things that are beyond my influence. So when I left GG’s apartment and saw the mess that used to be my car, my only real concern was the easiest way to get it sorted. Yes, I was annoyed. But staying annoyed wouldn't have restored the car to the condition it was in when I parked it the night before. So it was wasted energy.

GG couldn’t quite understand where I was coming from. She was knocking on doors, talking to passers by, and trying to get through to the local police; I was leaning against some railings, smoking a cigarette, and just wondering why anyone would want to do something like that. Then I went home and tried a couple of different ways to get it off. And you know what? The most simple approach was the most effective. Later GG phoned and said that she was proud of me... it took me a second or two to figure what she meant, but when I did it meant something to me.

Well, I’m not sure if any of this was worth reading, but the good news is that my next post will be for HNT, and I’ve agreed with NYM to fulfil my obligations with regard to my derriere. I now have a photo of said derriere, which will be on my blog come midnight tomorrow for all to… errr, behold. But I’m still saying “No Dick Shot”! So don't even ask...

28 comments:

E-E said...

lol......

...can't wait. I am also pleased by the fact that everyday about this time (5:43 est) I check my fave blogs, and juuuuust about catch you when you just finish your post. Sweet.

BTW, great philosophy. It's nice to see / experience in a man.
I know I may sound (read?) violent at times, lol, but the best policy is indeed always to look at the scene objectively and react calmly.
You would make a good Leader.
And, I am glad GG reacted the way she did....
=)

WDKY said...

Emerald that was lovely - all of it. Thank you!

(By the way, HNT requires a later post tomorrow, or it'll be HNW!)

K.D. Morgan said...

I always say I'm a simple girl myself. I like it that way and it's nice to see others do as well.

Now, to check out that tat.

WDKY said...

I knew we had a connection, KD :-)

Oh, try HNT 3.

NewYorkMoments said...

So, please share with me how you've gotten to that place of peace? Need a little help with that one...

And thanks for fulfilling your obligation this week!

WDKY said...

Just stay positive, nym... things will all settle down soon.

Oh, and you're welcome :-)

NewYorkMoments said...

Maybe not before I have a heart attack.

Caterpillar said...

I'm with you, WDKY. I have much less stress when I don't allow myself to get upset over small things.

I can't wait to see your British buns!! (I know I sound like a dork, but I don't care!)

WDKY said...

British buns? Cat!!

(God, look at the time again...)

Sher said...

I was thinking about this subject as I drove home tonight (after I had flipped someone off I'm sure). I thought to just let it be, especially the stuff I can not control.

We'll see how long that lasts (rolling eyes).

Claire said...

Enigmatic too?!!

TJ said...

I can definitely relate to your current philosophy--mine is very similar. I have had quite a few difficult situations in my life, most of which I haven't even hinted at on my blog up to this point. But they've all led to me having a different take on what is and isn't really worth getting upset about.

and just when I go out and finally buy a digital camera to have more revealing options for HNT, you decide of all weeks to post one of your derriere. Are you trying to overload the blogspot comment counter?? My prediction is that you'll be pushing close to that magic 100 number.

This week will be a total wash with your photo sucking all of the oxygen out of the blogosphere--I might as well take a picture of my sodding elbow for all of the attention it'll get...

WDKY said...

Sher, it'll last as long as you want it too... (lol)

Claire - possibly... (lol again)

TJ, I apologise - but an obligation's an obligation :-)

(And the downside for me is that my arse is on the internet. I mean, think about it.)

positronic said...

I can say that the world would be a better place if we all could post our posteriors, and if we could learn to live with the sight of our own bums.Alas, as creatures of vice, we all prefer the sight of others' bums :-)

WDKY said...

That's very good, Pos :-)

kimmyk said...

You seriously need to stop watching EM:HE. That show just breaks my heart.

Glad to hear you've found that place where you're happy. It's a nice place to be....
I think I'd be completely happy about everything in my life if I found a new job. But I like my job actually-just am not a big fan of a specific co-worker. *heavy sigh*
Maybe one day.....

Bring on the ass shot. I'm ready.

WDKY said...

ROFL Kimmy... and come work with me after the new year. I'm sure Honey and family will be fine :-)

Her Daddy's Eyes said...

I can not watch EM:HE ANYMORE...damn it.

WDKY said...

It's killing me, Eyes, honestly.

Networkchic said...

Congrats, it's hard work getting to the place where you are. I think when you start to look at life with the attitude - pick your battles wisely, some are not worth fighting, you can make life simpler. I'm trying to do that every day, but it's hard because I'm a fighter and I'm stubborn and I have oh so much to learn. Maybe I'll learn from you. :-) Can't wait for that butt shot.

WDKY said...

I guess it helps to reach a conclusion as to the things that really matter, NWC... for me, they're aged 8 and 11.

Butt shot lined up for midnight :-)

NML said...

I don't want a *dick* shot! Gosh I must be a secret prude, but it wouldn't do anything for me!
Your attitude re the car is healthy and your past experiences have put things into perspective. I always say that people should not apply the same amount of energy to everything that upsets them in life otherwise we'll go crackers! Very naughty re the football ;-)

Sky said...

WDKY, I envy you. I wish I could be at that place in my life that you are at. I also wish that I wouldn't get upset over things I have no control over but have not gotten to that point in my life yet. I hope to be there someday. I have found that the older I get, the easier it has gotten but I still have a long ways to go. I'm proud of you too :). Any insightful tips you can give to those that want to be in "that place"?

WDKY said...

NML, at least I didn't give you a full comentary :-)

Sky, it pains me to say this, but I'm probably the oldest of this little munch of bloggers. Every grey hair scattered over my head no doubt represents the legacy of some past trauma!

kt said...

That's a great place to be. Inner peace and acceptance is priceless and when you achieve it, it's worth all the crap you've had to wade through to get there.

WDKY said...

Trouble is, kt, that some of that crap was my own! Oh well...

Annalis said...

Inspiring post. It's refreshing to read that people can get through difficult times and come out with a better outlook on life. I hope I'm so lucky.

WDKY said...

It's easier when all the shit's behind you, Annalis, but hang in there.