Saturday, October 08, 2005

The talk with GG.

Well, with GG now back from Genoa we've had a chance to talk on the phone to catch up with stuff generally and to make plans for the weekend. It was all going well. Like any other conversation really, except that she was a bit emotional as we haven’t seen each other for a while and had wanted me to go away with her. And then it happened.

"I have some plans for Saturday", she said.

"Do you? What sort of plans?"

"Just some more games…"

"Ah… some more games. I think we might have to talk about this, babe."


Talk we did. Trying to deal with this when things are still delicate because of the "newness" of it all isn't easy, and we seemed to just go round in circles. In the end I had no choice. "GG, you’re not listening to me, and I really think you should. So I’m going to say it again..."

So... I explained that I don't necessarily want to have decisions made for me s*xually. That the times for these "games" is later, when the s*x is more comfortable, more natural... when we understand each other's bodies a little better. We talked these things through, and GG cried for a minute or two. Mostly, I think, because she thought I might be saying I didn't want her. But possibly because I was telling her that I won’t accept her tendency, or maybe her need, to control.

In the end, I think we were okay. But it was a difficult call, and time will tell. And, I guess, I need to understand the issues that are lying beneath the surface, although that's something that will require some patience on my part, and at this moment my patience is limited. I'm close to saying "f*ck it". Tomorrow - today now - is going to be something of a test, for both of us. It's going to be about a lot of things, but not about games – they can wait.

14 comments:

Sky said...

That whole scenario almost sounds like it should be turned around but stick to your guns. Us, women really don't want a man we can control (at least I don't). We want you to put your foot down in some instances and you're right the games come later :).

WDKY said...

Oh, the foot's down, Sky. This whole control thing is shite. I'm not going to pander to it.

kimmyk said...

why is she wanting to play games so early in a relationship? in my head i'm thinkin-she wants the sex to be more. people are different-some people enjoy crazy things or need crazy things to get them going...i dont know.
just seems odd she wants games so early on.
good thing you were honest-that way there's no confusion later.

WDKY said...

Kimmy, you're right in a sense. She's got a "thing" about sex... I can't quite explain it yet, but she seems almost competitive about it. I most post some detail at some point, I'll see.

One thing I have decided, though - if the sex isn't working she's history. I've never stayed in a relationship of the sex isn't good (minimum), and this isn't going to be an exception.

Blueprincesa said...

sounds to me like she just wants so badly to be the best lay you've eve had that she's just trying a little too hard, and maybe shooting herself if the foot a little in the process...

WDKY said...

Maybe it's that simple, Blue. I do know one thing - I'm not going to hang around if it carries on.

ladylongfellow said...

Well good for you standing up for your sexual rights! I don't understand why they games so early in the relationship? You should both just be learnin and enjoying eachother -but that is just my opinion, I suppose. Good luck!

WDKY said...

To be honest, LL, I wouldn't normally f*ck about with it, I'd just tell her to take a hike.

I'm responding to the fact that I like her, and everything else really dopes seem... nice.

zooz said...

You'll know after this weekend I reckon. If you can get past all that and have a nice, uncomplicated, lusty f*ck it might just put you back on an even keel.

If it gets too complicated your head will take you straight out of the situation.

p.s. I'd still like to have a rating :-)

WDKY said...

You know me too well, Zooz. And no, you can't have a rating!

NML said...

Well said. Talk about taking the spontaneity out of things. That type of planning is for 1) people who've been together for donkeys or 2) call girls.

WDKY said...

ROFLMAO! She hasn't asked for money yet...

Networkchic said...

I read this after your latest one...I guess it all worked out. I'm thinking that maybe you two are sync in now.

WDKY said...

Yes and no, NWC. Depends how profound you want me to be!